I used to hate board games. I kind of tolerate them now. You know what has changed?
I got better a them.
I realised that I was just a sore loser! I just don’t like sucking at stuff. But let’s be honest, who does?!
When taking on the goal to improve your health/fitness, what do you do? Work on strengths first, or do you shore up your weaknesses?
I think strengths. Going to the gym or going for a run is awkward enough, there is just no need to make it more miserable! Trying to run when “big boned-ness” runs in the family is an experience akin to childhood P.E. lessons spent trying to act like you know to kick a ball! And that’s shame, especially in a gym. It’s the one place that people go to improve themselves.
If you’ve been to a gym, you’ve seen the crazy-ass people doing acrobatics and lifting stupid amounts of weight while grunting like hippos. But those people have one thing in common, they’re comfortable because they know what they’re doing, and what they’re doing is bringing them closer to their goal.
I hate running, but my friend told me running is best for weight loss?!
That might be true for your friend, and running might help you lose weight quicker than if you lift weights (in general that’s not true, but lets go along with that for the moment!).
But I feel this quote explains my thoughts;
The best exercise is the one you’ll actually do!
To be motivated in anything things are essential (according to the Self Determinant Theory of Motivation 🙄
• Competency – if we think we are good at something, or see progress, we do it more.
• Autonomy – Choose to improve your fitness, and choosing how you will do so!
• Self Relatedness – Training with people, or social aspect of sport, aligning fitness with your core principles.
Doing what you’re good at ticks the box of competence in terms of motivation. It helps to build momentum, which is always hard to come by if you’re going to the gym (a place you might hate), if you’re doing stuff that you suck at!
Well I don’t know what I’ll be good at!? 😡
Without seeing someone train, it’s hard to say what they’re going to be best at!
But here are some general guidelines.
• Your genetics will dictate a decent amount of your strengths. Tall and skinny? Then running and jumping. Big boned? Means more surface area for your muscles!
• If you have a personal trainer, they will try to help you with your goals. But they should also help you find your strengths, and be proud of them.
• Play sports you were good at. Use the gym to increase fitness and skill to get even better at that sport.
• Does the idea fill you with dread? Well don’t do it then!
Have fun at the gym. It really is possible!
Not sure how to make the most of your time there.
Email firstname.lastname@example.org, and I’ll be more than happy to help with some suggestions!